A guide to travelling as a couple

Travelling with your partner is a fantastic life experience. What could be better than seeing the world’s diversity first hand with your favourite person – from its wild places to its urban sprawls, its strange cultures and odd foods to smiling strangers and welcoming arms. But even the magic of travelling can put a strain on your happy union, whether you’re just dating, are newly weds or have been by each other’s side for years, travelling will put you in a position where you’re tired, hungry, lost or confused (or all of the above). Here are our top tips for travelling as a couple.

Fight or flight

Arguments with your partner are probably the biggest concern for couples when travelling. Let’s be honest, no one can get under your skin the way your partner can. Days spent “on the move” – whether that’s by plane, bus or train – are generally when couples feel the most pressure and are sometimes tired and hangry (that’s a combination of hungry and angry). There’s no point in letting what’s on your mind fester as it’ll come out eventually, so it’s always best to talk about what’s bothering you, but stay away from bickering if you’re feeling irritable. This takes some self-awareness and kindness for each other. In other words, don’t get dragged into an argument because your partner complained that their feet are sore.

Alone time

Another way to avoid fighting is to make sure you get out of each other’s hair every once in a while. Spending time together is great but going off to enjoy a solo activity is equally important. Give each other a little space (it can be a full day or even just an afternoon) to spend time doing what you want (from reading a book on the beach to exploring a nearby attraction). The time apart will give you the chance to miss each other and then catch up of each other’s day over a bottle of wine later.

Flame on

Generally a holiday with your partner, away from the stresses of everyday life and work, will bring you closer together as you explore new places and set out on new adventures. While taking personal time (as discussed above) is super important, so is putting a little effort into your relationship. A romantic “splash out” dinner where you get a little dressed up and go for a meal somewhere a bit special goes a long way. Use this opportunity to talk about deeper conversations such as your hopes and dreams for the future, helping you connect beyond the holiday.

Strengths and weaknesses

Allocate different roles and responsibilities between you and your partner for a smoother holiday experience. This way you always know who has the room key or the travel documents and passports. This extends to organisational responsibilities such as researching transport and accommodation options. Everyone feels that they are a valuable member of the “team” and helps to avoid petty fighting over lost goods.